Spanking isn’t Beating
Many disagree with a spanking or a swat. It is not cruel. It is not teaching your kids it is all right to hit others. Sometimes it is the only way to startle a child out of doing something destructive or harmful to himself or to others. For instance, if your son goes over and, without any reason, hits his sister with a stick leaving a big, red welt. Telling him, “You shouldn’t do that” is not enough to persuade him he did something wrong. There needs to be a consequence. He sees his sister is crying, he sees you are upset, but these things do not register. You have to tell him what he did wrong in a stern tone and give him a swat on the leg. Not a swat that leaves a mark, but one that has a little sting and lets him know that there are bad consequences for bad actions. Most times it hurts his feelings more than his bottom or leg. That is usually when, as a parent, you want to cave in because his shaking bottom lip and sad eyes nearly break you down... Be strong. He loves you, and the spanking shows that he does not want to disappoint you again.
Spanking are meant to be used occasionally and never with anger. Many people will definitely disagree with this form of discipline. That’s not a PROBLEM! Spanking teaches them they cannot hurt others without a similar consequence. It usually only takes a few spankings during their toddler years to teach them about the connection of bad actions to bad consequences.
Always Know When to Say "No"
Parents who just can't say, "No," to their kids are doing irreparable damage. When a child receives approval for everything: “She happens to be using vulgar language or words often nowadays” or "Oh, he tears the stuff in your new pillows”. Everyone understands and won't mind listening to his blood curdling screams. He’s just a toddler," etc. - the child is not going to grow into an acceptable member of society, and any parent who allows their child’s disruptive behavior is a fool for not disciplining and saying, "No, you cannot do that; it is not acceptable." The child goes through life from baby to adult thinking the world revolves around him.
It doesn't matter if your child gets mad at you for saying, "No." It is your responsibility to teach the child. Do not think for one minute that people in public are lauding your parenting skills as a "patient, suffering parent," when you have the power to do something about it. Commit yourself to having the backbone to discipline the child.
Parenting Takes a Strong Person
If you want to be a good parent:
• you must place love and discipline on same level
• you must have that ability to make tough decisions
• you mustn’t let your child wear you down
• you need to stay calm during the heat of the moment (walk away if you cannot do this)
• you must convey what is right and what is wrong in a reasonable way
If you want good children who are going to be good members of society, you must start raising them with consequences that fit the action, whether it is positive or negative. If you want a child that is dependent on you and who no one else can stand being around, always let the child have their way and indulge them all their life.
Raising children is not about being "politically correct." You are investing in the future. Use your time well because it goes by quickly. Make a good impact in your child's life and I bey will definitely love you for it.
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